Category Foster Friendly Podcast

Episode 37 – How to Foster Faithfully through Generous Hospitality with Abby Crooks

In this episode of the Foster Friendly Podcast, hosts Courtney and Travis engage with Abby Crooks, a veteran foster parent and founder of Fostering Faithfully. Abby shares her personal journey into foster care, the challenges and rewards of fostering, and the importance of community support for foster families. The conversation highlights the significance of celebrating foster children's birthdays and the emotional complexities of being a foster parent.

Abby emphasizes the need for realistic expectations and the importance of finding joy in small victories while navigating the foster care system. She shares personal experiences and insights on fostering, emphasizing the importance of balancing personal life with parenting, the role of play in family dynamics, coping with grief and emotions associated with fostering, navigating the foster care system, and the key messages from her book 'Simply Available'. She highlights the need for foster children to feel loved and supported, and the importance of self-care for foster parents.

Learn more about Fostering Faithfully and checkout their resources.

Checkout Abby's guest blog for AKB on trauma and parenting.

Episode 36 – What Foster Families Wish Caseworkers Knew and What Caseworkers Wish Foster Families Knew with Brian, Travis, and Courtney

In this episode of the Foster Friendly Podcast, hosts Brian, Courtney, and Travis discuss the vital role of social workers in foster care, especially during Social Worker Appreciation Month. They explore the misconceptions surrounding social workers, the various roles of caseworkers, and the challenges they face. 

The conversation emphasizes the importance of understanding and appreciating the work of caseworkers, fostering a collaborative relationship between foster parents and caseworkers, and recognizing the humanity in each other's roles. The hosts also discuss the things foster parents often feel and wish caseworkers understood better. The episode concludes with suggestions on how foster parents can show appreciation to their caseworkers, reinforcing the idea that they are all part of the same team working towards the best outcomes for children in care.

Episode 35 – His Faith Became the Catalyst to Overcome Dark Times in Foster Care with Michael Weitzman

In this conversation, Michael Weitzman shares his profound journey from growing up in the foster care system to becoming an advocate for vulnerable children. He discusses the challenges he faced, including a failed adoption, emotional struggles, and the impact of trauma on his life. Michael emphasizes the importance of mentorship and faith in his journey, ultimately finding purpose in serving others and sharing his story of resilience and hope. In this conversation, Michael Weitzman shares his profound experiences growing up in foster care, the pain of abandonment, and the ongoing impact of these experiences on his relationships and identity. He emphasizes the importance of community, mentorship, and the role of faith in healing. Michael discusses the complexities of navigating relationships with both biological and adoptive siblings, and the necessity of building connections to foster healing and transformation. He calls for greater engagement from the community to support foster children, highlighting that relationships are crucial for their development and well-being.
Takeaways
  • Michael's journey through foster care began at a very young age.
  • He experienced significant trauma and neglect in his early years.
  • Adoption brought new challenges, including emotional detachment.
  • Mentorship played a crucial role in his development and success.
  • Michael's faith has been a guiding force in his life.
  • He aims to serve vulnerable children and advocate for their needs.
  • The importance of recognizing individual stories in child welfare.
  • Michael's experiences shaped his understanding of unconditional love.
  • He emphasizes the need for emotional support in adoptive families.
  • Michael's story highlights the potential for redemption and purpose. The pain of abandonment can overshadow early childhood trauma.
  • Healing from foster care experiences is a lifelong journey.
  • Relationships are essential for emotional healing and growth.
  • Community support plays a vital role in the lives of foster children.
  • Foster children often lack guidance and treatment plans after leaving care.
  • Mentorship can significantly impact the lives of youth in foster care.
  • Faith and community can provide a sense of belonging and hope.
  • The scars from trauma can reveal beauty and strength in individuals.
  • It is important to engage with and support those in need, especially foster children.
  • Building relationships requires commitment and selflessness.

Episode 34 – Cultivating Connection: Building Stronger Relationships in the Kitchen with Chef Kibby

In this episode of the Foster Friendly podcast, Chef Kibby shares his unique journey as a foster adoptive parent and professional chef. He discusses how the pandemic forced him to confront personal challenges and discover the profound connection between food and emotional well-being. Chef Kibby emphasizes the importance of using food as a tool for building attachment and connection with children, especially those from difficult backgrounds. He provides practical steps for parents to foster connection through cooking and highlights the significance of understanding children's emotional needs. 

He also discusses the profound connection between food and relationships, emphasizing the importance of creating meaningful experiences in the kitchen with family. He shares practical tips for engaging children in cooking, the significance of understanding the needs of foster children, and his unique work in a women's correctional facility, where he helps incarcerated women gain skills in food service. The discussion highlights the emotional and psychological aspects of food, connection, and community.

Episode 33 – Teens Openly Share Their Experiences as Birth Children in a Foster Home with Eli and Ayla Williams

In this episode of the Foster Friendly Podcast, host Courtney Williams engages in a heartfelt conversation with her children Eli and Ayla about their experiences growing up in a large foster family. They discuss the emotional complexities of fostering, the dynamics of their family, and the lessons learned through their journey. The conversation highlights the importance of compassion, patience, and the challenges faced when welcoming new foster children into their home.

Eli and Ayla share their insights on the impact of fostering on their lives and the significance of family support in navigating difficult situations. In this conversation, Eli and Ayla share their experiences growing up in a foster and adoptive family, discussing the challenges and rewards of navigating sibling dynamics, the importance of community support, and their aspirations for the future. They emphasize the need for love, accountability, and family connections for children in foster care, while also providing encouragement for potential foster parents.

Checkout Courtney's Kindle book:
 Navigating Foster Care with Your Children: A Support Guide to Help You and Your Family Through the Journey

Episode 32 – A Powerful Journey From Foster Care to Foster Parenting with Melissa Smallwood

In this episode of the Foster Friendly Podcast, Melissa Smallwood shares her profound journey through the foster care system, her experiences as a young mother, and the resilience she developed along the way. From her abrupt entry into foster care to the nurturing relationships that helped her thrive, Melissa emphasizes the importance of hope, support, and the impact of positive influences in the lives of children affected by trauma. 

Her story serves as a testament to the power of resilience and the role of caring adults in fostering growth and healing. In this conversation, Melissa shares her transformative journey from engaging in high-risk behavior to becoming a dedicated advocate for young mothers and foster care. She emphasizes the importance of support systems, the impact of trauma, and the need for commitment in foster care relationships. Melissa reflects on her own experiences in foster care, the role of community support, and the significance of self-reflection for effective parenting. Her story highlights the power of resilience, education, and the importance of creating safe spaces for children in care.

Episode 31 – The Staggering and Perpetual Problem of Too Many Foster Families Quitting with Brian, Travis, and Courtney

In this episode of the Foster Friendly podcast, hosts Brian, Travis, and Courtney discuss the challenges faced by foster parents, particularly the high attrition rates. They explore the emotional and systemic impacts of foster parent quitting on child welfare and the children in care. The conversation delves into the reasons behind these challenges, the importance of mentorship, and the need for support systems to help foster families navigate their difficult journeys. 

They also discuss the challenges faced by foster parents, including feeling unheard and unsupported within the system. They emphasize the importance of community support and systemic changes to improve the foster care experience. The discussion also highlights the need for retention of foster families over recruitment, advocating for a more supportive environment. Practical advice is offered for both foster families and those who care about the issue, stressing the importance of asking for help and reassessing one's situation.

Episode 30 – Helping Kids and Families Heal Through the Power of Connection with Jenni Lord

In this episode of the Foster Friendly podcast, hosts Brian Mavis and Courtney Williams interview Jenni Lord, founder of the nonprofit CHOSEN. Jenny shares her personal journey into the child welfare space, highlighting the importance of understanding trauma in foster care and adoption. She discusses the evolution of CHOSEN, its mission to support families, and the critical role of parental self-regulation in the healing process.

The conversation emphasizes the complexities of child removal and the need for ongoing education and support for families navigating these challenges. In this conversation, Jenni also discusses the evolving language around adoption and foster care, emphasizing the importance of understanding the grief children experience when separated from their families. She highlights the need for trauma education for parents and the significance of connection in the healing process.

Jenni shares insights into the services provided by CHOSEN, including telehealth support and individualized action plans for families. The conversation also features transformative stories of families who have benefited from these services, underscoring the universal need for connection in fostering healthy relationships.

Learn more about the services and resources offered at Chosen. 

Episode 29 – Helpful Insights on Birth Children in Foster and Adoptive Families with Daniela Coats

In this episode of the Foster Friendly podcast, hosts Brian and Courtney engage in a heartfelt conversation with Danielle Coates, who shares her unique experiences growing up in a foster and adoptive family. Danielle discusses the challenges and joys of being a biological sibling to foster children, the feelings of invisibility and replacement she faced, and the importance of supporting biological kids in foster families. The conversation also delves into practical strategies for parents to engage their biological children in discussions about fostering and adoption, emphasizing the need for open communication and validation of their feelings.

Daniela Coats shares valuable insights on the experiences of biological children in foster care, emphasizing the importance of connection and visibility. She discusses the emotional challenges faced by these children, including feelings of invisibility and grief due to the transient nature of foster care. Daniela also introduces her children's book, 'The Day Lily Turned Uninvisible,' which addresses these themes and aims to foster understanding and empathy. The discussion highlights the need for community support and the significance of acknowledging the feelings of all family members involved in foster care.

Other Resources: 
Checkout Daniela's org "With Siblings"- which exists to support the birth children in foster and adoptive families by equipping parents and professionals through training and resources.

Courtney's ebook: Navigating Foster Care with Your Children: A Support Guide to Help You and Your Family Through the Journey 

Episode 28 – We Don’t Age Out of Needing a Family: Teens in Foster Care with Tracee Rudd

In this episode of the Foster Friendly Podcast, hosts Travis Vangsnes and Courtney Williams interview Tracy Rudd, State Director of Colorado Kids Belong. Tracy shares her journey into foster care advocacy, the importance of recruiting foster parents, and the impact of the I Belong Project-which connects children in foster care awaiting adoption to families. 

The conversation delves into the challenges and triumphs of adopting teenagers, the significance of building a support system for foster families, and the need for systemic change in the foster care system. Tracy emphasizes the importance of community involvement and encourages listeners to open their hearts to foster care and adoption.

Episode 27 – A Lively Foster Care Conversation with Focus on the Family’s Dr. Sharen Ford

In this episode of the Fosterer Friendly podcast, Brian Mavis and Courtney Williams engage with Dr. Sharon Ford, a prominent figure in child welfare, to discuss the significance of public-private partnerships in foster care. Dr. Ford shares her extensive experience and insights on how collaboration between faith-based organizations and government agencies can lead to better outcomes for children in the foster care system. The conversation covers the roles of state and private agencies, the importance of community involvement, and the challenges faced by faith-based families in fostering. Dr. Ford emphasizes the need for prayer, informed decision-making, and active participation in fostering and adoption efforts.
Takeaways
  • Collaboration is essential for improving foster care outcomes.
  • Faith-based organizations play a crucial role in child welfare.
  • Understanding the differences between state and private agencies is vital.
  • Families should conduct thorough research before choosing a fostering path.
  • State governments often contract with private agencies for capacity reasons.
  • Faith-based agencies can provide unique support and commitment to families.
  • The primary goal of foster care is to ensure child safety and reunification.
  • Changing mindsets in faith-based communities is necessary for fostering success.
  • The church can actively support foster care initiatives in their communities.
  • Prayer and seeking guidance are fundamental steps for families considering fostering.

Episode 26 – Foster Care 101: Things You Don’t Need to Do to Be Foster Parents

In this episode of the Foster Friendly podcast, hosts Brian, Travis, and Courtney discuss the realities of foster parenting, focusing on what foster parents don't need to do. They share personal experiences, emphasizing the importance of embracing imperfection, learning from failures, and providing stability for children in foster care. The conversation highlights the balance between generosity and realism, encouraging foster parents to create a nurturing environment without overwhelming children with excess.

 In this conversation, the hosts discuss various aspects of foster care, emphasizing the importance of making informed decisions, understanding placement dynamics, and the challenges of adhering to traditional norms like birth order. They highlight the necessity of family support, the impact of past trauma on foster parents, and the reality that one does not need to be a savior or a stay-at-home parent to foster effectively. The discussion aims to debunk common myths and encourage potential foster parents to take the next steps in their journey.

Learn more about being a foster or adoptive parent or supporting those who are in your community.