Category Foster Friendly Podcast

Jamie and Adriana Howard share their adoption journey of becoming an instant family of six through foster care. They initially planned for domestic infant adoption but felt drawn to foster care and older children. They emphasize the importance of learning as they go and being open to trying new strategies when it comes to parenting. They highlight the uniqueness of each child and the need to adapt parenting approaches accordingly. The Howards also discuss the significance of preserving sibling bonds and the sense of identity and stability it provides for children in foster care.

They unpack their experience of adopting four siblings and the importance of keeping siblings together in foster care. They discuss the challenges and rewards of parenting a sibling group and the unique bond that develops between siblings who have experienced similar hardships. Jamie and Adriana emphasize the need for support from the community and the power of having other adults in the children's lives. They also highlight the gratitude and resilience of their children and the transformative impact of the adoption journey.

Short video on the Howard's going from zero to four kids instantly and another video about their adoption journey.

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In this episode of the Foster Friendly Podcast, Travis and Courtney interview Nicholas Kelley, a single foster dad who shares his journey into fostering and running a family-owned "Foster Friendly" restaurant, Kelley's Tavern and Grill, in Georgia. Nicholas talks about his experiences as a foster dad and the unique perspective he brings to the foster care system. He emphasizes the importance of finding a support system within the foster care community and being flexible in the face of challenges. Nicholas also discusses the stereotypes and assumptions he faces as a single foster dad and the rewards he experiences in his role.

Nicholas discusses the importance of having a support system as a foster parent and finding inspiration to keep going. He emphasizes the role of faith in his journey and the joy of seeing positive changes in the lives of the children he fosters. Nicholas also shares his experience as a foster-friendly business owner and the motivation behind supporting foster families. The conversation highlights the need for support and community involvement in the foster care system.

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In this episode of the Foster Friendly podcast, hosts Brian, Courtney, and Travis delve into the fundamentals of foster care, sharing personal stories and insights from their experiences. They discuss the definition of foster care, the statistics surrounding it, and the pressing need for more foster families. The conversation also addresses common myths and misconceptions about foster care, practical steps for those interested in becoming foster parents, and the importance of creating a safe and welcoming environment for children in care. The hosts emphasize the emotional and relational aspects of fostering, encouraging listeners to consider their motivations and the impact they can have on the lives of children and families in need.

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Foster care stats mentioned in this episode:
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In this episode, Pastor Buddy Sampson discusses the importance of foster care from a church perspective and the biblical mandate to care for orphans. He shares how his church, Overland Durango, meets the requirements to be a foster-friendly faith community by teaching about foster care, supporting foster families, and providing trauma sensitivity training. Pastor Buddy also talks about the connection between aging out of foster care and homelessness, emphasizing the need for adoptive love and support to prevent homelessness.

He shares his interactions with homeless individuals and the importance of building relationships and showing care and compassion. The conversation explores the challenges and experiences of working with the homeless population and the importance of addressing the systemic issues that lead to homelessness. It emphasizes the need for compassion, understanding, and support for individuals struggling with addiction, mental health issues, and broken families. The conversation also highlights the role of churches in becoming foster-friendly and providing a safe and supportive community for foster families. The guests encourage pastors and church leaders to prioritize foster care and adoption as part of their ministry and to create a culture of love and acceptance for vulnerable children and families.

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In this episode of the Foster Friendly Podcast, Brian Mavis and Courtney Williams interview Larry and Tammy May, a couple who adopted a child after their own children had grown up. The conversation explores their decision to adopt, the challenges they faced, and the importance of being brave and stepping out of the norm. They discuss the partnership between them and how they supported each other throughout the adoption process. The Mays also share their experiences of raising a child from a hard place and how it differed from raising their biological children. 

Overall, the episode highlights the importance of considering adoption at any stage of life and the rewards it can bring. Larry and Tammie May share their experience of becoming empty nesters and deciding to open their home to a child in need. They adopted internationally from El Salvador and were unaware of the crisis in the foster care system until they saw the staggering number of children in need. This realization led them to become CASA volunteers, advocating for children in the court system. They encourage others in the retirement stage of life to find ways to make a difference, emphasizing that retirement doesn't mean ceasing to work but rather finding the next adventure. They also highlight the importance of compassion and understanding for both the children and their biological parents in the foster care system. Through their work with Indiana Kids Belong, they raise awareness and engage businesses and faith communities to support children in foster care.

Takeaways

- Adoption is a viable option for couples at any stage of life, including empty nesters.

- Being brave and stepping out of the norm can lead to fulfilling experiences and making a difference in the lives of children.

- Having a strong partnership and supporting each other is crucial when considering adoption.

- Raising a child from a hard place can be challenging but also rewarding, and previous parenting experience can provide valuable insights.

- Adoption is a journey that requires thought, prayer, and openness to God's guidance. Becoming empty nesters can be an opportunity to open your home to a child in need and make a difference in their life.

- Retirement doesn't mean ceasing to work, but rather finding the next adventure and making a meaningful impact.

- Compassion and understanding are essential when working with children in the foster care system and their biological parents.

- There are various ways to support children in foster care, such as becoming a CASA volunteer or engaging businesses and faith communities to raise awareness and provide resources.

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Becca Bramley, a foster care caseworker, discusses her background and role as a therapeutic foster care program manager. She explains the difference between general foster homes and therapeutic foster homes, highlighting the intensive support provided by the latter. Becca also delves into the concept of adverse childhood experiences (ACEs) and the impact of trauma on children in care. She emphasizes the importance of finding qualified foster parents, particularly for teenagers who often face conflict with their parents. The need for stable homes for older youth is a national trend in foster care.

Becca also discusses the importance of understanding the needs and experiences of foster children. She emphasizes the need to approach their behavior with empathy and compassion, recognizing that trauma and pain are often behind their actions. Becca shares an inspirational story of a group of siblings placed in different foster homes but maintained a strong bond and continued to support each other. She also addresses the issue of caseworker burnout and highlights the importance of self-care and staying authentic to provide the best support for children and families.

Takeaways
- Therapeutic foster homes provide intensive support for children with high-intensity needs, while general foster homes offer less intensive care.
- Adverse childhood experiences (ACEs) are traumatic experiences that children endure, and they can have a significant impact on their well-being.
- Finding qualified foster parents is crucial, especially for teenagers who often face conflict with their parents.
- Stable homes for older youth are in high demand in the foster care system.
- Understanding and addressing the underlying trauma behind a child's behavior is essential for effective care and support. Approach the behavior of foster children with empathy and compassion, recognizing that there is often trauma and pain behind their actions.
- Maintaining sibling relationships is crucial for the well-being of foster children, even if they are placed in different foster homes.
- Caseworker burnout is a significant issue in the child protection sector, and self-care and authenticity are essential for managing the emotional challenges of the job.
- Supporting foster families is just as important as being a foster family, as it helps them stay in the game and love the children well.
- Continued education and seeking therapy can help caseworkers develop the skills and tools necessary to support children with trauma.

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In this conversation, hosts Brian and Travis interview Britt Kelley, Foster Friendly Manager with Colorado Kids Belong. Britt is a former foster youth alumni and shares about her experiences as a teenager in foster care. They discuss the challenges faced by teens in foster care, the importance of supportive foster families, and the need for empathy and understanding. Britt shares her personal journey and offers insights into what foster youth need most from adults. The conversation highlights the significance of providing stability, predictability, and a sense of belonging to teenagers in foster care.

Takeaways

- Teens in foster care face unique challenges and need supportive foster families.

- Stability, predictability, and a sense of belonging are crucial for teenagers in foster care.

- Foster parents should involve teens in decision-making and help them navigate major life decisions.

- Teens in foster care often have a deep sense of empathy and a desire to help others.

- It is important to recognize the worth and value of teens in foster care and provide them with love and support.

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In this lively conversation, hosts Brian, Travis, and Courtney discuss the movie 'Sound of Hope' and its portrayal of a church in Possum Trot, Texas, that adopted 77 kids. They share their personal reactions to the movie and highlight the importance of understanding the context and time period in which the story takes place.

They discuss the need for trauma-informed training and support for foster and adoptive families within churches. They also emphasize the significance of creating a community that embraces and supports these families. The hosts also engage in a conversation around practices and paradigms for churches that are crucial in supporting and retaining foster families well and holistically. They also talk about criticisms they've heard from peoples' experiences around churches that have failed to meet the needs of foster families and make them feel like they belong.  The conversation concludes with recommendations for resources and training for churches interested in getting involved in foster care and adoption and caring for their people well.

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In this heartwarming episode of the Foster Friendly Podcast, hosts Brian and Travis interview Woody and Mindy Houser, an inspiring couple from South Dakota who specialize in caring for children with high-level medical needs. The Housers share their journey into foster care, which began after the stillbirth of their daughter and led them to adopt two children from Korea and eventually foster children with significant medical needs.

Woody and Mindy discuss the challenges and rewards of fostering medically fragile children, emphasizing the importance of flexibility and support. Their real estate and property management business provides the necessary flexibility to attend numerous medical appointments and provide the specialized care these children need. They highlight how their own children have been positively impacted by their foster siblings, developing compassion and a sense of responsibility.

The episode explores the Housers' experiences with various medical conditions, including genetic syndromes and the use of medical equipment like ventilators and feeding tubes. They also discuss the importance of building a strong medical team and the support they receive from healthcare professionals.

Woody and Mindy emphasize that you don't need a medical background to foster medically fragile children—just a willingness to learn and a big heart. They provide practical advice for prospective foster parents, including the importance of building relationships with medical professionals and leveraging community resources.

Throughout the episode, the Housers' dedication and love for their foster children shine through, offering valuable insights and inspiration for anyone interested in foster care, especially for children with special needs.

In this latest episode of the Foster Friendly Podcast, hosts Courtney and Travis are joined by Dr. John DeGarmo, a renowned foster care expert who has fostered over 60 children and is the director of the Foster Care Institute. Dr. DeGarmo is a global keynote speaker and foster care consultant, best selling author, and trauma informed presenter and trainer.

Dr. DeGarmo shares his extensive experience in the foster care system, highlighting the challenges faced by foster parents and the child welfare system. Dr. DeGarmo discusses the importance of both recruiting and retaining foster parents, noting that many foster parents leave within 18 months due to the overwhelming demands and lack of support. He emphasizes the need for comprehensive training for foster parents, particularly in handling mental health issues, which have surged among children during the pandemic and beyond.

The episode delves into the impact of the lockdowns on foster children, who lost access to essential support services, schooling, and in-person therapy. Dr. DeGarmo explains how these disruptions have exacerbated mental health issues and the importance of addressing these challenges to better support foster children.

Dr. DeGarmo also touches on the significant issue of social media and online safety, highlighting the vulnerability of foster children to online predators and the importance of training foster parents to navigate these dangers. Additionally, he discusses the systemic issues in the foster care system, including the high turnover rate of caseworkers and the need for better support and resources for both foster parents and children.

Throughout the episode, Dr. DeGarmo provides valuable insights and practical advice for fostering, underscoring the importance of community support and the role everyone can play in helping children in crisis.

Contact Dr. DeGarmo (for speaking and consulting) or access his vast array of resources in all things related to foster care.

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This week’s conversation explores how being in foster care impacts education. Dr. Danisha Keating is a former foster youth, a CEO, an international motivational speaker, and an author. She shares her personal journey and the challenges faced by foster youth in education. Dr. Keating also discusses the emotional struggles and trauma that foster youth experience, as well as the common lack of understanding and support from teachers and educators who often don't understand the implications of foster care. The conversation explores the importance of advocating for foster youth and helping them find their passion.

Dr. Danisha's book, 'From Foster to PhD: Letters from a Suitcase,' aims to motivate foster youth and educate others about the emotional aspects of their experiences. The conversation also touches on the need for empathy, support, and resources for foster youth in their educational journey. Children in foster care often experience frequent school changes, resulting in significant academic setbacks. Studies show that foster youth are more likely to graduate high school at a lower rate and have significantly lower rates of post-secondary education compared to their peers.

The education gaps can be overwhelming for both foster parents and youth, but it's important to recognize that catching up may not always be realistic. Dr. Danisha shares more thoughts around different approaches at looking at gaps and prioritizing real needs. Danisha really highlights the role of advocacy as foster parents. The goal should be to help foster youth find value in their education and empower them to define their own path.

The three also discuss Danisha's new documentary film, '33 Roofs' that highlights (from her own story) the educational and homelessness barriers faced by foster youth and how people can support them.

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Statistics cited in this episode:

1. Months of academic setbacks with each placement
2. Foster care-education outcomes
3. Additional resources and stats on education outcomes

In this episode, we explore the sobering and eye-opening correlation of many former foster youth who end up incarcerated. Social policy experts have deemed this all too common reality as the "foster to prison pipeline." Our guest, Bernie Lattner, has an extremely unique and helpful vantage into this phenomonen as a long time foster dad, mentor, and prison chaplain for a federal prison in Rochester, MN. Bernie is a single foster and adoptive dad and shares some really important insights through the lenses of fostering and being a prison chaplain.

Bernie, Travis, and Courtney engage in a conversation that explores some of the factors that connect the dots between foster care and criminal problems later. Bernie shares insights from prisoners on the things they now realize would have helped them when they were youth looking to find belonging and connection.

Bernie shares his story of growing up with a single father and becoming a foster father to three boys by 2006. He describe the struggles and joys of fostering, especially, kids that have reactive attachment disorder and other behavioral problems. Bernie also mentions his present case of working with a 17-year-old boy who, with Bernie’s intervention and assistance, was able to complete high school. Bernie shares an incredible story of a heart warming moment they share at his graduation.

Helpful information for single fathers and men who are thinking about becoming foster parents can be heard as well in this episode. Join us and listen to Bernie’s incredible story and get the understanding of fostering, adoption and mentoring from the person who has devoted his life to the well-being of the children and families.

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Statistics cited in this episode:
1. Criminal Law Practitioner
2. Youth Today