Category Foster Friendly Podcast

Episode 32 – A Powerful Journey From Foster Care to Foster Parenting with Melissa Smallwood

In this episode of the Foster Friendly Podcast, Melissa Smallwood shares her profound journey through the foster care system, her experiences as a young mother, and the resilience she developed along the way. From her abrupt entry into foster care to the nurturing relationships that helped her thrive, Melissa emphasizes the importance of hope, support, and the impact of positive influences in the lives of children affected by trauma. 

Her story serves as a testament to the power of resilience and the role of caring adults in fostering growth and healing. In this conversation, Melissa shares her transformative journey from engaging in high-risk behavior to becoming a dedicated advocate for young mothers and foster care. She emphasizes the importance of support systems, the impact of trauma, and the need for commitment in foster care relationships. Melissa reflects on her own experiences in foster care, the role of community support, and the significance of self-reflection for effective parenting. Her story highlights the power of resilience, education, and the importance of creating safe spaces for children in care.

Episode 31 – The Staggering and Perpetual Problem of Too Many Foster Families Quitting with Brian, Travis, and Courtney

In this episode of the Foster Friendly podcast, hosts Brian, Travis, and Courtney discuss the challenges faced by foster parents, particularly the high attrition rates. They explore the emotional and systemic impacts of foster parent quitting on child welfare and the children in care. The conversation delves into the reasons behind these challenges, the importance of mentorship, and the need for support systems to help foster families navigate their difficult journeys. 

They also discuss the challenges faced by foster parents, including feeling unheard and unsupported within the system. They emphasize the importance of community support and systemic changes to improve the foster care experience. The discussion also highlights the need for retention of foster families over recruitment, advocating for a more supportive environment. Practical advice is offered for both foster families and those who care about the issue, stressing the importance of asking for help and reassessing one's situation.


Episode 30 – Helping Kids and Families Heal Through the Power of Connection with Jenni Lord

In this episode of the Foster Friendly podcast, hosts Brian Mavis and Courtney Williams interview Jenni Lord, founder of the nonprofit CHOSEN. Jenny shares her personal journey into the child welfare space, highlighting the importance of understanding trauma in foster care and adoption. She discusses the evolution of CHOSEN, its mission to support families, and the critical role of parental self-regulation in the healing process.

The conversation emphasizes the complexities of child removal and the need for ongoing education and support for families navigating these challenges. In this conversation, Jenni also discusses the evolving language around adoption and foster care, emphasizing the importance of understanding the grief children experience when separated from their families. She highlights the need for trauma education for parents and the significance of connection in the healing process.

Jenni shares insights into the services provided by CHOSEN, including telehealth support and individualized action plans for families. The conversation also features transformative stories of families who have benefited from these services, underscoring the universal need for connection in fostering healthy relationships.

Learn more about the services and resources offered at Chosen. 




Episode 29 – Helpful Insights on Birth Children in Foster and Adoptive Families with Daniela Coats

In this episode of the Foster Friendly podcast, hosts Brian and Courtney engage in a heartfelt conversation with Danielle Coates, who shares her unique experiences growing up in a foster and adoptive family. Danielle discusses the challenges and joys of being a biological sibling to foster children, the feelings of invisibility and replacement she faced, and the importance of supporting biological kids in foster families. The conversation also delves into practical strategies for parents to engage their biological children in discussions about fostering and adoption, emphasizing the need for open communication and validation of their feelings.

Daniela Coats shares valuable insights on the experiences of biological children in foster care, emphasizing the importance of connection and visibility. She discusses the emotional challenges faced by these children, including feelings of invisibility and grief due to the transient nature of foster care. Daniela also introduces her children's book, 'The Day Lily Turned Uninvisible,' which addresses these themes and aims to foster understanding and empathy. The discussion highlights the need for community support and the significance of acknowledging the feelings of all family members involved in foster care.

Other Resources: 

Checkout Daniela's org "With Siblings"- which exists to support the birth children in foster and adoptive families by equipping parents and professionals through training and resources.

Courtney's ebook: Navigating Foster Care with Your Children: A Support Guide to Help You and Your Family Through the Journey 




Episode 28 – We Don’t Age Out of Needing a Family: Teens in Foster Care with Tracee Rudd

In this episode of the Foster Friendly Podcast, hosts Travis Vangsnes and Courtney Williams interview Tracy Rudd, State Director of Colorado Kids Belong. Tracy shares her journey into foster care advocacy, the importance of recruiting foster parents, and the impact of the I Belong Project-which connects children in foster care awaiting adoption to families. 

The conversation delves into the challenges and triumphs of adopting teenagers, the significance of building a support system for foster families, and the need for systemic change in the foster care system. Tracy emphasizes the importance of community involvement and encourages listeners to open their hearts to foster care and adoption.




Episode 27 – A Lively Foster Care Conversation with Focus on the Family’s Dr. Sharen Ford

In this episode of the Fosterer Friendly podcast, Brian Mavis and Courtney Williams engage with Dr. Sharon Ford, a prominent figure in child welfare, to discuss the significance of public-private partnerships in foster care. Dr. Ford shares her extensive experience and insights on how collaboration between faith-based organizations and government agencies can lead to better outcomes for children in the foster care system. The conversation covers the roles of state and private agencies, the importance of community involvement, and the challenges faced by faith-based families in fostering. Dr. Ford emphasizes the need for prayer, informed decision-making, and active participation in fostering and adoption efforts.

Takeaways
  • Collaboration is essential for improving foster care outcomes.
  • Faith-based organizations play a crucial role in child welfare.
  • Understanding the differences between state and private agencies is vital.
  • Families should conduct thorough research before choosing a fostering path.
  • State governments often contract with private agencies for capacity reasons.
  • Faith-based agencies can provide unique support and commitment to families.
  • The primary goal of foster care is to ensure child safety and reunification.
  • Changing mindsets in faith-based communities is necessary for fostering success.
  • The church can actively support foster care initiatives in their communities.
  • Prayer and seeking guidance are fundamental steps for families considering fostering.


Episode 26 – Foster Care 101: Things You Don’t Need to Do to Be Foster Parents

In this episode of the Foster Friendly podcast, hosts Brian, Travis, and Courtney discuss the realities of foster parenting, focusing on what foster parents don't need to do. They share personal experiences, emphasizing the importance of embracing imperfection, learning from failures, and providing stability for children in foster care. The conversation highlights the balance between generosity and realism, encouraging foster parents to create a nurturing environment without overwhelming children with excess.

 In this conversation, the hosts discuss various aspects of foster care, emphasizing the importance of making informed decisions, understanding placement dynamics, and the challenges of adhering to traditional norms like birth order. They highlight the necessity of family support, the impact of past trauma on foster parents, and the reality that one does not need to be a savior or a stay-at-home parent to foster effectively. The discussion aims to debunk common myths and encourage potential foster parents to take the next steps in their journey.

Learn more about being a foster or adoptive parent or supporting those who are in your community.


Episode 25 – The Importance of Water Safety Lessons for Kids in Foster Care with Sarah Boyd

In this episode, Travis and Courtney are joined by Sarah Boyd from Aqua-Tots. Aqua-Tots offers swimming lessons for children of all ages and abilities, with a focus on preventing drownings and building confidence. Sarah shares stories of how their program has made a life-saving impact on children and provided peace of mind for parents. Whether it's learning basic water survival skills or refining stroke techniques, Aqua-Tots Swim Schools aims to instill a lifelong love of swimming while prioritizing safety. She emphasizes the need for accessibility and the role businesses can play in supporting foster families. Courtney and Travis encourage other businesses to become foster friendly and provide opportunities for children in foster care.

Learn more about Aqua-Tots Swim Schools. 


Episode 24 – Caring for Yourselves Better as a Foster Family with Rebecca Harvin and Stacy Lasonde

In this episode of the Foster Friendly Podcast, hosts Courtney Williams and Travis Vangsnes discuss the critical issues surrounding foster care, particularly the high rate of burnout among foster parents. They are joined by Rebecca Harvin and Stacy Lasonde, who share their experiences and insights on the importance of support systems for foster families.

The conversation highlights the creation of Haven Retreats, Rebecca's nonprofit organization aimed at providing therapeutic retreats for foster and adoptive caregivers. The discussion delves into the emotional challenges faced by foster parents, the significance of addressing grief, and the need for community support, especially for biological children in foster families. Stacy shares personal stories of finding support from Haven (as a foster mom) as well as how Haven has provided support, rest, and encouragement to her whole family. The episode concludes with aspirations for expanding Haven's reach to support more families across the nation.

LEARN MORE about Haven Retreats:

Stats cited in this episode on foster parent attrition:







Episode 23 – Foster Mom Inspiring Her City to Better Support Families with Cayela Moody

In this episode of the Foster Friendly podcast, hosts Brian Mavis and Courtney Williams engage with Cayela Moody, a passionate advocate for foster care and community support. Cayela shares her journey as a foster adoptive parent and her efforts to establish a foster-friendly community in Jacksonville, Florida. The conversation highlights the importance of support systems for foster families, the motivations behind choosing foster care, and the role of businesses in creating a supportive environment for foster families. Cayela emphasizes that even after closing their foster home, there are still opportunities to contribute to the foster care community through advocacy and mentoring.

 In this conversation, Cayela also discusses her efforts to support foster families in Jacksonville through the Foster Friendly initiative. She highlights the importance of community support, resource accessibility for caregivers, and the vision for a collaborative future in foster care. Cayela emphasizes the need for businesses to engage with foster families and the significance of providing resources to ease the burden on caseworkers. The conversation concludes with encouragement for individuals interested in fostering and advocating for children in care.

Learn more about Foster Friendly Communities. 


Episode 22 – A Field of Dreams for Foster Care with Savannah Bananas Co-Owner Emily Cole

In this episode of the Foster Friendly podcast, hosts Brian and Travis welcome Emily Cole, co-owner of the Savannah Bananas, who shares her journey in fostering and the creation of their nonprofit, Bananas Foster. The conversation explores the joy of building a community, the emotional connection to foster care, and the importance of optimism in facing challenges. The three discuss the pressing issues within the foster care system, including the need for a waitlist of foster families, the challenges faced by current foster families, and innovative solutions to improve retention rates. 

Emily and Jesse have overcome so many obstacles in the creation and ongoing growth of the Savannah Bananas and so much of their mindset to innovate and not be afraid to try new things impacts ideas and dreams with their nonprofit. Emily discusses the mindset of 'prehab' versus 'rehab' and how they aim to change the narrative around foster care by celebrating families at their games. 

The Savannah Bananas are known for their brand of fun and lightheartedness and these are qualities the Coles bring to Bananas Foster as they seek to inspire people all around the country to support foster families or become a foster family. The Savannah Bananas currently have a wait list of 3 million to get tickets to their games and Emily has a vision for seeing a wait list for foster families ready to help kids in need. They explore the role of Bananas Foster in raising awareness and support for foster care, emphasizing the importance of community engagement and education. Emily shares insights on how they are working to create a supportive network for foster families, including initiatives like potassium care baskets and connecting with local organizations.

Episode 21 – How to Best Navigate the Holidays as a Foster Family with Bethany Hall

In this episode of the Foster Friendly Podcast, hosts Travis and Courtney, along with guest Bethany Hall, discuss the complexities of navigating the holidays for children in foster care. They explore the emotional challenges, the importance of managing expectations, and strategies for preparing both parents and extended family for the unique dynamics that arise during this time.

The conversation emphasizes the need for trauma-informed approaches and the significance of creating supportive environments for children. This conversation delves into the complexities of navigating holidays for families involved in foster care. It highlights the emotional challenges faced by children, the importance of preparing them for new experiences, and the need for understanding from extended family members. The speakers share personal anecdotes and practical strategies for creating a supportive environment during the holidays, emphasizing the significance of cultural heritage and empowering birth families. The discussion also touches on the role of education in fostering awareness and compassion within the community.

Visit Chosen.care to learn how Chosen’s services and training can make a difference in your family’s life.