Many misconceptions and stereotypes exist that discourage men from becoming foster parents. I will debunk some of these myths and explore the reasons why men are not just equipped but valuable and needed as foster parents. If you’re a man who is considering foster care, or even just curious about fostering, read on.
- “Men aren’t cut out for the emotional toll of foster care.” Men are as capable of handling difficult parenting emotions as women. In fact, fostering can be a great way for men to exercise their emotional intelligence and strength.
- “Foster care makes men less manly.” Being a foster parent is one of the most selfless and honorable things a person can do. It takes a true man to open up his heart and home to a child in need.
- “Men are at a disadvantage in the foster care system.” The foster care system is in desperate need of loving, stable homes for children, regardless of the gender of the parent. Men can be just as successful and effective foster parents as women.
- “Men aren’t as nurturing as women.” Children benefit equally from the gifts that moms and dads offer. In fact, many children in the foster care system often crave positive male role models.
- “Men are too busy with work and other responsibilities.” While it’s true that fostering can be demanding, it’s also incredibly rewarding. Many moms and dads balance work and family responsibilities effectively. And when you foster, child welfare often covers the cost of childcare. Many foster parents report finding a sense of purpose and fulfillment in fostering that “day jobs” often lack.
What do kids in foster care really need? They need a safe place and people to stand in the gap with them until they can be reunited with their families. So men, don’t be afraid to step up and explore fostering. It might be one of the best decisions you ever make.